Amatonormativity and the Future I Never Really Wanted

This post was written for the August 2021 Carnival of Aros, where the theme is “Well-being and Amatonormativity.” People in aspec communities talk a lot about the day-to-day challenges amatonormativity imposes on their lives. For this month's carnival, I want to talk a bit about how amatonormativity harmed me before I realized I'm aro and …

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The Amatanormativity in Romance-Coded Language

Much of the language we use to talk about relationships is steeped in amatanormativity. Even the term "relationship" is often assumed to be short for "romantic relationship," when many aspec people prefer to use the term "relationship" in its more broad sense. In particular, the language we use to talk about partnerships tends to assume …

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