The Layer Cake of My Identity

This post was written for the May 2021 Carnival of Aces, where the theme is “Words and Conceptualizations.” My bio on this blog currently labels me as “an asexual, aromantic, autistic, non-binary person.” While this isn’t inaccurate, it’s more of a context-sensitive approximation of my identity than a comprehensive examination of it. The truth isContinue reading “The Layer Cake of My Identity”

The Language of Asexuality Before AVEN

The asexual community as we know it today is quite young; while the broader LGBTQ rights movement is usually traced back to the Stonewall Riots of 1969, the modern asexual community evolved much later. The founding of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) in 2001 was an important milestone in the asexual movement; theContinue reading “The Language of Asexuality Before AVEN”

The Cultural Model of Gender

Within the transgender community, there are different conceptual models we use for understanding gender. These kinds of models help us answer questions like, “At what point is a trans woman considered a woman?”. Is it when she begins identifying as a woman? When other people start thinking of or referring to her as a woman?Continue reading “The Cultural Model of Gender”

Deconstructing Label Culture

While most people are familiar with the most common labels queer people use to describe their identities, there are a number of microlabels used by specific subsets of the community that rarely see use outside them. Most people have heard the terms lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender, but most people have not heard of termsContinue reading “Deconstructing Label Culture”

Are the Straights Okay?

There’s a lot of contempt for cisgender heterosexual (cishet) people in queer communities. Queer people regularly face discrimination from cishet people, and they tend to feel safer in queer spaces where they can be surrounded by people like them who “get it.” These are spaces where queer people can vent about the discrimination, erasure, invalidation,Continue reading “Are the Straights Okay?”