Confessions of a Former “SAM Aro”

This post was written for the September 2021 Carnival of Aros, where the theme is “Language.” In the aspec communities I’m originally from (mostly Reddit) and in the vast majority of the educational material I read when first discovering aspec identities, the “split-attraction model” (SAM) is the predominant conceptualization scheme for explaining aspec identities, and …

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Being an Ambassador to the Queer Hive Mind

This post was written for the September 2021 Carnival of Aces, where the theme is “The ‘We’ of Me.” In minority communities, we tend to use language like, “the asexual community” or “the trans community” to refer to the set of people in a particular identity group. And while my queer and neurodivergent identities do …

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Amatonormativity and the Future I Never Really Wanted

This post was written for the August 2021 Carnival of Aros, where the theme is “Well-being and Amatonormativity.” People in aspec communities talk a lot about the day-to-day challenges amatonormativity imposes on their lives. For this month's carnival, I want to talk a bit about how amatonormativity harmed me before I realized I'm aro and …

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The Layer Cake of My Identity

This post was written for the May 2021 Carnival of Aces, where the theme is "Words and Conceptualizations." My bio on this blog currently labels me as "an asexual, aromantic, autistic, non-binary person." While this isn't inaccurate, it's more of a context-sensitive approximation of my identity than a comprehensive examination of it. The truth is …

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