This post was written for the September 2021 Carnival of Aros, where the theme is “Language.” In the aspec communities I’m originally from (mostly Reddit) and in the vast majority of the educational material I read when first discovering aspec identities, the “split-attraction model” (SAM) is the predominant conceptualization scheme for explaining aspec identities, and …
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Amatonormativity and the Future I Never Really Wanted
This post was written for the August 2021 Carnival of Aros, where the theme is “Well-being and Amatonormativity.” People in aspec communities talk a lot about the day-to-day challenges amatonormativity imposes on their lives. For this month's carnival, I want to talk a bit about how amatonormativity harmed me before I realized I'm aro and …
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White Lies and Approximate Definitions
This post was written for the May 2021 Carnival of Aces, where the theme is "Words and Conceptualizations." You know how sometimes you tell those little white lies because the truth is just too complicated to explain? You don't intent to mislead anyone, but telling the full story would take too long, so you just …
The Layer Cake of My Identity
This post was written for the May 2021 Carnival of Aces, where the theme is "Words and Conceptualizations." My bio on this blog currently labels me as "an asexual, aromantic, autistic, non-binary person." While this isn't inaccurate, it's more of a context-sensitive approximation of my identity than a comprehensive examination of it. The truth is …
The Amatanormativity in Romance-Coded Language
Much of the language we use to talk about relationships is steeped in amatanormativity. Even the term "relationship" is often assumed to be short for "romantic relationship," when many aspec people prefer to use the term "relationship" in its more broad sense. In particular, the language we use to talk about partnerships tends to assume …
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