Amatonormativity and the Future I Never Really Wanted

This post was written for the August 2021 Carnival of Aros, where the theme is “Well-being and Amatonormativity.” People in aspec communities talk a lot about the day-to-day challenges amatonormativity imposes on their lives. For this month's carnival, I want to talk a bit about how amatonormativity harmed me before I realized I'm aro and …

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White Lies and Approximate Definitions

This post was written for the May 2021 Carnival of Aces, where the theme is "Words and Conceptualizations." You know how sometimes you tell those little white lies because the truth is just too complicated to explain? You don't intent to mislead anyone, but telling the full story would take too long, so you just …

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The Layer Cake of My Identity

This post was written for the May 2021 Carnival of Aces, where the theme is "Words and Conceptualizations." My bio on this blog currently labels me as "an asexual, aromantic, autistic, non-binary person." While this isn't inaccurate, it's more of a context-sensitive approximation of my identity than a comprehensive examination of it. The truth is …

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