The Space Between My Neurodiversity and My Romantic Orientation

This post was written for the January 2022 Carnival of Aros, where the theme is “In-Between Spaces.” I talk a lot about neurodiversity and queer stuff on this blog, but something I haven’t had the opportunity to talk about yet is just how interconnected those aspects of my identity are. For me, being autistic actually …

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Plotting My Queer Identity on the Convergence-Divergence Spectrum

This post was written for the January 2022 Carnival of Aces, where the theme is “Divergence vs. Convergence.” This month’s prompt got me thinking again about my queer identity—not just my romantic and sexual orientation, but how they relate to the very queer way I go about relationships. Coyote’s concept of a divergent-convergent spectrum for understanding …

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Being an Ambassador to the Queer Hive Mind

This post was written for the September 2021 Carnival of Aces, where the theme is “The ‘We’ of Me.” In minority communities, we tend to use language like, “the asexual community” or “the trans community” to refer to the set of people in a particular identity group. And while my queer and neurodivergent identities do …

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Amatonormativity and the Future I Never Really Wanted

This post was written for the August 2021 Carnival of Aros, where the theme is “Well-being and Amatonormativity.” People in aspec communities talk a lot about the day-to-day challenges amatonormativity imposes on their lives. For this month's carnival, I want to talk a bit about how amatonormativity harmed me before I realized I'm aro and …

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